During this grandiose journey of Motherhood, I've been on a spiral of many ups and downs in choosing wisely what is best for my son and myself. I've toppled the bottle in opening my heart to its fullest and surrendered my love to my son's father in coming to acceptance, forgiveness, allowing, surrendering, and loving. And I've moved all the way on the other side of the scale to standing up for myself, affirming what is right for my self expression, my passion, my power, my divinity, my beauty, my pleasure, affirming that I deserve respect, honor, integrity, authenticity, humbleness and deep profound kindness and love.
- Typically you come from a dysfunctional home in which your emotional needs were not met.
- Having received little real nurturing yourself, you try to fill this unmet need vicariously by becoming a caregiver, especially to men who appear needy in some way.
- Because you were never able to change your parent(s) into the warm, loving caretaker(s) you longer for, you respond deeply to the familiar type of emotionally unavailable man whom you can again try to change through your love.
- Almost nothing is too much trouble, takes too much time, or is too expensive if it will "help" the man you are involved with.
- Accustomed to lack of love in personal relationships, you are willing to wait, hope and try harder to please.
- You are willing to take far more than 50 percent of the responsibility, guilt, and blame in any relationship.
- In a relationship, you are much more in touch with your dream of how it could be than with the reality of your situation.